What makes a genuine girlfriend?
It’s a question often asked, but rarely answered in the best way. To build a life-long relationship with a group of girls, how does that work?
Like most, I’ve had my share of failed friendships. In high school, I had so many different groups of friends that it was hard find someone who liked me for me. In college, as a biracial young women in a historically white sorority, I didn’t know if anyone would truly understand me, and being an independent woman in the South, where I’m at the age of getting married and having babies, who will truly support my career aspirations?
My journey to solid friendships have been littered by fakers, posers and users. If you’re any sort of decent person, and especially when you’re younger, it can be hard to tell who has your best interest at heart and who’s there for the glory.
As you get older and get hurt by life, it can be a bit easier. Right after college I realized the importance of having people to depend on. There I was, 22 with a slew of “friends” but absolutely nobody to talk to. Sure, I had some childhood friends, but we hadn’t spoken about real world stuff in years; there were my sorority sisters, but did they really care about the ups and downs of my mediocre life? Sure, we all got drunk together at mixers, tailgates and various functions, but did they even see the world like I did?
I found myself alone in a sea of people, something I never understood until that moment. That’s when I started taking inventory of my friend stock. Who was really there for me? Who was just using me for good connections or a place to stay for the weekend?
