Grief & Loss Self-Help

How to Recover from Emotional Pain (Part 3 of 3) – The Loss of a Loved One

How to Recover from Emotional Pain (Part 3 of 3) – The Loss of a Loved One

Ebony S. Muhammad (EM): How have you benefited Pre Clear (Any person who has been entered into Dianetics Therapy)?


Sonya Muhammad (Gold Seal Dianetics Auditor) SM: My brother was murdered August 23, 2008. We were introduced to this technology in 2010. In Feb. 2011, I completed my course work and became an auditor. In Feb. 2011, my first session addressed the loss of my brother- so I thought.  In Oct. 2011, I was able to pair up with a fellow auditor, Sis. Jacqueline Muhammad, we began auditing each other 3-5 times a week. It is essential auditors are audited regularly. We addressed other painful emotional incidents as they came up as well as emotions regarding my brother’s death.


In April 2012, I was restimulated by a series of minor events related to my brother. I spoke to one of his friends that week, we had to meet with the attorney and I had to take his car to the shop. On that Friday, I was driving to my session and I began thinking about my week and why was I feeling overwhelmed with emotion. When I get to my session and sat down and I was in tears, bu I wasn’t sure why. The skillful auditor began to ask me a series of questions and then she asks me to go through the incidents as his mother-OMG that was it!!!


I was 17 when my mother had Jairus, and so I was more of his mother than his sister.  I potty trained him, took him to H.S.L.E/CJ (High School for Law Enforcement/Criminal Justice) and TSU (Texas Southern University) with me, because both of my parents worked and when he wasn’t in school he was with me. I would cut his hair and my grandmother would make us outfits out of the same material. Lol   All the other sessions, we were addressing the loss as his sister not as his mother. From that day to this very day, I have not grieved, cried, or mourned him.


I remember everything about him but with no pain. When I would think of him, the mental picture of him lying on the ground would always be there. Now, I have to make a conscious effort to recall that image.  Yes I miss him but there is a peace that comes because Allah (God) blessed me to be a part of his life for 21 years.


I am a witness bearer to Holy Quran Ch.2 V. 62  . To be able to know the root of why I thought that nothing I did was good enough and the truth about the fear I had in certain situations I would not express myself. I have a confidence that I had not experienced before and I was able to see the darkness that was with me day to day. Where it not for the Teachings of the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad and Dianetics, I would still be wandering in the wilderness of my own mind. To be able to see and begin to understand why the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan has a fearless swagger. It’s because he walks in the Light and Life of the Master and the Truth that the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad has given him from Master Fard Muhammad will set the human family free, that we may see the light and walk therein.


I am excited and look forward to continuing my journey of discovering more truths about myself and to have the layers of scales being removed from my eyes; to be able to say, that I once was blind but know I see.  I see men as they are not as trees. For me this is the spittle that has helped me to see myself in a better light and therefore, being able to see the teachings of the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad in a deeper light is AWESOME. In addition, John 8:12 Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life. V32 And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.  Psalms, 82:6.  I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High.


EM: What has been or is the most rewarding aspect of an auditor?


SM: My reward as a Dianetics auditor is that I am blessed to serve/help anyone on the planet, with God’s help, to remove the charge (pain/emotion) from things that have happened to them and words that have been spoken to them throughout their lives that we have let shape and mold our behavior, thoughts, and words.


Our Lessons in the Nation of Islam teach us that we have been eating the wrong foods, not just physical food but the wrong mental food such as: “Nothing I do is good enough”, “I’m always messing things up”, “I’m going to grow up to be no good just like……”, “I can’t do it” or “You’ll never be as good as…”. Sometimes children are fed this negative food on a daily basis. They start to believe it and unfortunately, act accordingly. Romans 12:1-8, as a man thinketh, so is he.  Ephesians 4:17-32 speaks about a renewing of the mind and putting on a new man. Romans 12:2 “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”  The transformation starts with the mind/thoughts and directly connected to that is the heart.


Allah (God) and His Christ, the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad, guided Minister Farrakhan to this tool to remove the poison and rust from our hearts and minds that our breast may be expanded to service not only the black man and woman but the human family of the Planet Earth!!! The Minister will soon send us out as Saviors to relieve the physical, emotional, a spiritual pain of the people. As Jesus sent his disciples into the highways and byways preaching the word and healing the people or as the scripture says casting out demons. Mark 3v14  Luke 8:40-48 9:1-6.


The Honorable Elijah Muhammad says that we are deaf, dumb and blind. Jesus in Luke 7:21-23, And in that same hour he cured many of their infirmities and plagues, and of evil spirits; and unto many that were blind he gave sight.22 Then Jesus answering said unto them, Go your way, and tell John what things ye have seen and heard; how that the blind see, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, to the poor the gospel is preached.”


L. Ron Hubbard says, “The auditor might liken his job to removing the rocks and shoals from the hidden depths of a turbulent river and making of it a smooth-flowing and powerful stream.”  When I audit it, I am overjoyed to see the power restored to them and the realizations that they have about themselves- I am, I can, I love and I know. There is no more I am not, I can never, I don’t love and I don’t know. That’s joy!!!


EM: How would you address the “trust” issue one may have in disclosing those painful moments of their life that they’ve worked so hard to forget…now having to confront them?


SM: The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan has made it clear that the information shared in a session should be kept in the strictest of confidence, and that if we do not uphold this we will no longer be able to audit. L.R.Hubbard also has given us an Auditor’s Code that must be followed.


Let me end by saying, The Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan introduced us to Dianetics, because he loves more than we love ourselves and has found a tool that removes the pain and discomfort from a lifetime. Words can never begin to express how grateful one would be to know that they are loved so much. The best way to show gratitude is to not hide the light under a bushel basket but to use the talent (auditing) and make a difference in the lives of the human family.

EM: Thank you so much for sharing and bearing witness to such a powerful and much needed life-saving tool!

SM: Thank you ma’am!


To hear the words of the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan  relating to the use of Dianetics and Auditing, view the following video clip.

Read Part 1 How to Recover from Emotional Pain: The Source

Read Part 2 How to Recover from Emotional Pain: Without A Prescription


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