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7 Ways To Fill the Void of Loss In A Natural and Healthy Way

7 Ways To Fill the Void of Loss In A Natural and Healthy Way

By Mavis X


This topic is one that could take up several pages, but I will do my best to address it here in my column.  The pain of loss can create a void that we attempt to fill with many unhealthy things or behaviors.  For some people they hide it under a veneer of showiness and try to look cool. They dress to impress and get into serious debt just to make it look like they are happy, when in reality, their hearts are breaking.  Suffering a loss is always followed by the stages of grief and it is critical that we allow ourselves to go through each of those stages in order to come out of it in a healthy and whole state of being.  Here are a few tips:


1. Identify what you’re using to try to fill the void.

For some people this could be alcohol, illegal drugs, or even prescription drugs to try to make his or her self feel better. Some people eat and eat to get that feeling of comfort. Some people use entertainment as their drug of choice or sex. The point is, all those external things may feel like they temporarily fill the void, but once they are gone, you realize it’s still there.


2. Realize that you’re good enough

No matter what you’re using to try to fill the void – what you need to hear right now is – you do not need that stuff. You really don’t need it to feel better. Actually, by using all of these things to numb yourself, you’re actually prolonging the agony! You aren’t addressing the roots of how you feel! There is a better way.


3. Fill your life with things that interest you outside of work and obligations.

Hobbies and special interests are great ways to fill the void.

It is very easy to get in a “comfortable rut” by engaging in the same activities and never pursuing our true interest or take the time to do things we really want to do.  I like the idea of making a “bucket list”; things I want to do before I kick the bucket.  Take that list out and do at least one thing every few months, it will work wonders in filling that void.


4.  Surround yourself with people who enhance your life experiences.

Negative people do nothing to help you experience the joy of living.

Following this tip sometimes means getting away from people that we normally hang out with and socialize.  We can become so entrenched in the routine of it until we stop noticing the negative effects they really have on us.  It’s important that we do a periodic check of the company we keep, especially when we are in need of positive reinforcement and encouragement.


5.  Practice gratitude for all that is in your life.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself, it only focuses your energy onto what you think you do not have, as opposed to focusing on what you do have.

This tip is critical because it can serve to fill the void with something good for your mind, body and soul.  An attitude of gratitude is the best medicine for anything that ails you and leaves you feeling fulfilled and happy with life.


6. Spiritual exercises like meditation and prayer

The above will allow you to connect to yourself, higher self and higher power. Some people may frown at this tip, but it is strictly a personal thing.  I’m not suggesting that you believe in what someone else believes in, I’m just suggesting that you believe in something greater than yourself.  Otherwise, you will have the mistaken notion that nothing is greater than you, which may prove detrimental to you.


7. Talk to Someone

Lastly, I must not neglect to offer a most important tip; that there is help. It’s priceless information to know that there is help, and it’s a courageous act to step out in faith and get it. All you need to do is find the appropriate professional and contact him or her. They will work with you to get through your problem, and get to the other side. There is absolutely no shame in engaging a therapist when you realize you are worth it and want to live.


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1 Comment
tiffany colby November 10, 2018 at 7:21 pm Reply

I have this void and sometimes it hurst everytime I think about my daughter who we recently put into adoption . I miss hold her and changing and feeding her she is so far away lives in south Carolina I didn’t know what I was thinking at the time when I did put wasn’t easy and still aint easy

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